Hi everyone:
I have been pondering the Change Talk that occurs during a 4th Step, in an AA where the participants is to list all their 'character deficts" ( all the thing bridges they have burned while drinking /drugging) and though this Step is avoided with a almost phobic reaction, I have come to believe that here is something power about the works actually coming out of the person''s mouth to another human being, who is just there to be a safe place. Once the works are out of our mouths, we cannot take them back in, and that is often what leads to Commitment Talk. I heard recently "You can't put that toothpaste back in the tube." I believe that to be true. Even if the person does not not follow through, they never forget that they made a verbal agreement about what they had done and what they were going to do with it. This is Commitment Talk, and though it may take a few times, I am so hopeful that folks will finally get better in Betterville, no matter what road they take or door they walk through. All pathways to getting better are good pathways.
I have meet folks who have written out 4th step yet never shared them and they have not done so well. It is that willingness to show ourselves warts and all that allows us to join the human race again.
Jacque
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